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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I made a couple close friends. [b]But I didn't have that great group of friends you're still friends with years later. I was lonely a lot and on the fringes of other groups, [/b]plus I had one good friend I roomed with junior and senior year which helped.

For me I think it was that I spent too much time with a boyfriend my first year. But I also just wasn't very adept at making friends? [b]And I did not really mesh with anyone on my freshman hall - there was a big clique I wasted too much time trying to be a part of. I should have realized sooner they didn't want to include me and branched out more.[/b][/quote]

OP here. That was exactly my situation. My freshman hall had one big clique, and I tried very hard freshman year to fit into the big group of girls who were all friends with each other on my floor. I should've realized sooner that they were not interested in being friends with me, but for some reason I thought that being nice to them would have them "invite" me into their friend group.

And yes, same experience here with being lonely very frequently, not having a great group of friends who you're still friends with after graduation, and being on the fringes of other social circles.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm on the spectrum, but I got a neuropsych eval in grad school and the answer was no. [/quote]

I’m sorry to hear that, OP. My DD is autistic. The advice they give over and over again is to find friends through an activity you enjoy. If you are looking for friends, this is the way to go about it. [/quote]

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