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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just a slight counterpoint - the neurotypical way of being is not necessarily better. So I wouldn't frame it as being annoying, but more like "people without adhd can sometimes be overwhelmed by a lot of talking / info dumping" or whatever. It's just a difference of preference. The way they are isn't bad, just different.

Don't get me wrong, my kid can annoy me, too. But they have other ND friends that aren't annoyed by them. [/quote]

This is compassionate, but enabling.
ADHD is the explanation but not the excuse for continuing a behavior that will disadvantage your child in life. Sure you can choose to indulge by setting up an expectation that behaviors are just “different” and one set of behaviors is not universally valued over another—but that would be a distortion of reality and doesn’t really serve your child well IF you can use the information instead to teach him to become more self aware.
Studies show that people with ADHD may lack these inherent cues but they are not uneducable. These are these symptoms that can be identified and you can help your child regulate and adapt.[/quote]

Some of these behaviors are to regulate their nervous system. They don't need excuses any more than you need an excuse for breathing.  You can't completely "educate" them out of stims or repetitive behaviors. These serve a purpose, and others disapproving or being annoyed can be very damaging to a child.  You can try to understand the functions of these behaviors and help to find other ways to regulate, like fidgets, extra outdoor time, etc. but not all will work all the time. [/quote]

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