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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Intimacy..if you can call it that, has become so BAD, that I may call it quits!

Background, I am a F 41 with M 44. Been together 3 years, live together and we have my DS 11, half of the time.

Intimacy involves me getting to the point that I need the release, so about every 4-5 days it will be morning. I take my own clothes off, snuggle beside him. He rolls to his back, I stimulate him. No touching of any kind for me...then he is excited...I'm of course not ready, so then at this point I take matters into my own hands literally. He watches me do my thing, then when I am done, he hops on and the event is over in 2-3 mins.

This is what intimacy looks like for me, and I don't know how many more times I can just go through the motions? It feels strange to not be touched and I crave it. I have never been in a relationship with a man who doesn't want to touch me other than the final act. It makes me sad and I am so bored. [/quote]

Has the sex always been like this, OP?

I was with a guy who didn't seem very interested in touching my body, who wanted me to wank him off during most of our intimacy and who often kept his eyes closed as well. I liked him a lot in many other ways - he was sensitive, thoughtful, cooked and cleaned, etc. - but I couldn't settle for that kind of sexual intimacy for the rest of my life so I broke up with him. Surprise, surprise - he came out as gay several years later.

I'm not saying it is always the answer, but men who aren't comfortable with their female partner's body, who don't crave it and want to look at it (assuming it is in good shape, which I was) and want to pleasure it, might have some issues with their sexuality. Despite the openness of the younger generations, there are still a lot of people living repressed in their sexuality - this is one area where toxic masculinity is a very real thing.[/quote]

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