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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP check in. I don’t feel the need to maintain a visually appealing weight or wear flattering, uncomfortable clothing. I do well at my job. I’m not in a social circle where it matters. DH never complemented me when I was very fit and tried very hard. I’d like to stop jumping through the hoops of skipping desserts and exercise to stay thin. It feels like I’m only doing it for DH, and I don’t think he really cares either way.  But he doesn’t say anything, so I don’t really know what would happen.  [/quote]

OP these two scenarios are different:

1) Woman who has always been very fit/thin/put together eases up a bit and gains 15 pounds or so by just taking it easier, eating the cake every once in awhile etc. Goes from maybe a size 4/6 to a 10/12 and stops wearing super tight uncomfortable jeans and spanx but who generally still has self confidence and takes some pride in their appearance and puts on a dress to go to dinner

2) Woman who has always been very fit/thin/put together gives up entirely and walks around the house wearing sweats/leggings holding a bag of chips 24/7, stops exercising, gains a significant amount of weight and puts zero effort into her appearance at any time and just generally becomes rather slovenly

I think scenario 1 is extremely normal and reasonable and will have little to no impact on your marriage. Probably it would even have a positive impact on your marriage because you will be happier and more relaxed and your husband will likely feel exactly the same about you.

Scenario 2 would likely convey the message to your husband that you just are kind of checking out of life and might be depressed/in need of support and would be more likely to have an impact on your marriage negatively. [/quote]

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