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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We didn't stress about it and both kids went to "West Coast Ivies." The kids stressed during midterms and finals. I didn't put pressure on them. Some kids are self-driven. [/quote]

I know so many parents who claim this and it’s never true. [/quote]

You're not intimately familiar with our family dynamics or our kids so you wouldn't know. My son was always serious about his studies and in early elementary would cry about things not being perfect. My oldest DD was sloppy and didn't care at all until 6th grade when she pulled it together and became a straight A student. We were supportive in that we would let them slide on chores the week before and of midterms/finals, and always provided snacks for sustenance and offered to hire tutors when they felt it was needed, but otherwise we aimed to be supportive rather than cracking the whip.

I went through school with a few kids whose parents put a ton of pressure on them and one refused to go to college, one wound up getting pregnant in college and her parents reaction (she thinks) caused her to miscarry, and then she had a nervous breakdown and took a couple years off before going back to school, and one did an Into the Wild after graduating from college and refused to talk to his parents for a decade. Not worth it.[/quote]

actually being supportive and being a role model of success is pressuring kids the right way-- cracking the whip is pressuring kids the wrong way--but both are pressuring kids-lets be honest....-[/quote]

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