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[quote=Anonymous]SIL is visiting from out of town and it was her birthday this week. She requested the family to come together to celebrate her birthday so BIL hosted. One of her children got diagnosed with the flu the day before. SIL made the decision to move forward with celebrating her birthday while her husband and child stayed back at my in-laws.

One of my children is having a midterm makeup exam this week and has been preparing for the exam for the past month. The exam is very important to his GPA and I did not want to risk getting him sick.  I decided not to come to the party which DH was fine with initially.  DH assured me that he would wear a mask while indoors since there is a risk of SIL, MIL, FIL and her other children being contagious and not knowing it.

When DH arrives at the party he informs me that there is a patio that I can hang out at.  DH was insistent that I come to the party since the entire family was there. I go to the party and hang out at the patio. They were just about to cut the cake and SIL requested that I come inside.  I made a request to see if we can cut the cake outside.  BIL's wife was fine with moving outside but then SIL said that it would not be possible since FIL has mobility issues and cannot come outside. I then made a poor decision which I completely own up to and replied with a comment of why he can't just come outside. SIL then got very upset at me and told me that it was safe to come inside since her sick child was at home and that she would never throw a party if she felt she put other lives at risk.  I did not respond to her and just left the party with my child

I realized that I made a mistake by requesting that the cake be cut outside and could have been perceived as having an attitude when SIL said no.  I apologized via text the next day and truly meant it.  I even let her know that my actions are my fault alone and DH or the kids have nothing to do with this and that they really want to hang out with her before she leaves and can do so without me if she is still upset.

She refuses to talk to DH and refuses to allow our children to see each other. Her son has now recovered.  Is SIL overreacting?? Will time heal this rift?

I feel awful for the request I made at the party and for my reaction when SIL refused to cut the cake outside. [/quote]

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