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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just got back from a Spring Break trip.  It was truly not anything elaborate...we drove seven hours away to Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg.  I spoke to my mother for Easter and she went on a tangent about spoiling the kids (7 and 9), most people don't get to go on vacations each year (which may be true), making sure they're not entitled, I have too much money, etc.

For context, I grew up really poor and NEVER went on vacations or trips as a child.  Not once...not even a day trip to the beaches that were only about 3 hours away.  Now, I'm doing fairly well financially but I still try to be responsible.  We've only done fairly ordinary vacations: Disney once, Delaware regularly, took them out of the country to an all-inclusive in Mexico last year so her comments have really started bothering me (and didn't travel at all during the height of the pandemic).

I am thankful we're able to provide things I didn't have and I understand her limited perspective (as far as how often vacations should occur), but I'm struggling with a response (if it's worth responding at all).  We're actually taking the kids to Europe in a few months and I don't even want to let her know because I know it's going to result in disbelief and more of these types of comments. But it's also not the type of thing that could stay a secret for long.

Any advice? She and I have a strained relationship that's gotten better lately, but this is really bothering me and I think news of the Europe trip is going to strike a nerve.[/quote]

Are you talking to her on the phone? If so just tell her you don't want to discuss the vacations if she's going to be rude. If she continues, hang up. [/quote]

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