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[quote=Anonymous]DH is 57-has been told for 5/6 years - after yearly physicals that he needs to lose weight. Guessing he’s at least 50 pounds overweight now.

He will very intermittently exercise (we have a treadmill and bike at home) or “train” for something like a twice yearly ski trip. We had a recent argument when I told him that I didn’t understand his approach - working out a few days in a row a week before a ski trip wasn’t helpful. DH was angry with me for saying this. My thinking is, just get in shape, period. He continues to eat huge portions and now has an equally large, overhanging belly that is honestly a huge turn off.

DH was a college athlete. I was far from athletic but have always liked swimming, yoga, dance, running, hiking. In my 40s, I started running, did a few 5ks, all solo.  I got injured, replaced running with hiking and power walking. I hike and walk solo-DH refuses to join me saying he’d rather run if he’s going to work out. I strive for 15 miles a week. Truth is: he can’t keep up with me and won’t try.

Also, he snores - something that’s worsened as he’s gained weight. He is defensive and dismissive about my complaints. He bought ME a sound machine thinking this would solve everything. I’m worried he has sleep apnea. He has downloaded an app to track his snoring after I made this suggestion last night.

All the suggestions I’ve read - to invite your spouse along, be active together, model healthy eating, etc just aren’t working.

Marriage counseling? Work on being kinder and more patient with DH? I’m just so frustrated and hate to think that I’ll be hiking solo for the foreseeable future.

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