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[quote=Anonymous]I have two.  Before I had kids I used to joke I wanted somewhere between 1 and 5 — I loved the idea of a really big family but I also was the youngest in my family so I knew I didn’t really know how hard it was going to be to parent.  After my first I knew instantly I was going to have another as soon as I possibly could.  I was really hard for me to wait for a whole year to try for my second.  Kids are 23 months apart.  I found adjusting to being a parent of two harder than I anticipated emotionally (I went from having my oldest be the center of my universe to a binary system where both of their needs had to be considered and I found that really hard) and the financial reality of having two in daycare was unavoidable.  Also, I wanted a new job and didn’t want to be going through trying/pregnancy/newborn phase while doing that.  So I decided I was stopping at two, and gave away newborn stuff as my second finished with it.  I still think wistfully about a third (or fourth) but the combination of finances, logistics, and emotional bandwidth make me feel like I just wouldn’t be as good a parent to three kids as I am to two.

Mentally, I’m leaving the door open for myself to foster when my bio kids head off to college but I’m done with bio kids I’m pretty sure.[/quote]

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