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[quote=Anonymous]The real problem is that too many people go into a marriage with the attitude of what they want to get out of marriage/relationship/partnership and too little concern over what they need vs what their partner needs.

Marriage should be considered a work-in-progress.  Both of you need to be as concerned about what the other partner wants/needs as you are for what you want/need.  And be willing to communicate those wants/needs and work together to find solutions.  Marriage breaks down when one or both partners stop trying to help fix the issues surrounding what each partner wants and needs out of the relationship.  And especially when it becomes one-sided, e.g. one partner is left to manage the wants/needs of both partners.  When that happens, when the supporting partner gives up (and eventually most partners burn out from carrying that full burden), then the marriage is likely over with no turning back and no reconciling.

So, before it gets to that point, you have to be willing and able to communicate with each other about the problems and who and how to fix the issues before it reaches the point of no return.  But most people are not willing to put that work in and that's how you end up with the divorce rate we have in this country.[/quote]

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