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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I couldn’t care less for family jewelry, but offering something, talking it up for days, then changing her mind at the last minute is rude and unfeeling. Does she have a history of doing this to you? From the way you write so diffidently about your parents, it looks like you’re used to being a doormat.[/quote]

I have become less confident about the value my parents give to the parent-child relationship.

For 20+ years, I have heard both my parents complain and whine about my sister-in-law (SIL). When SIL visited my parents the same time I am visiting them, all I see is my parents indirectly and directly insulting me and praising my SIL. I am surprised to see how my parents can be hypocrites. I asked my father if they talk badly about me before my brother and SIL, to which he said that they don't do that.
But the way my parents treat me versus how my Brother and SIL are treated is quite different from my observation.

In addition to that, I have gifted some gold jewelry to my mom in the past (quite a few times). Recently my dad announced before me that he would be giving some of that to my SIL. I could not say anything about it. Why would they want to give that to SIL? Is it because I gifted it to them and they think giving it back to me is rude? I cannot comprehend this. My brother never gifted anything gold to my mom as far as I know. This is also one of the reasons why I assumed that my mother giving me her bangles would not be big deal for her.  I keep asking myself if this all materialistic or is it expecting parents love and concern.

Also, anytime I was not feeling well (even with things like breast cancer related or sciatic nerve issues), my parents always brushed it off. Would not even lend an ear to listen and sympathize. Recently, my SIL went through some ovarian cyst related surgery and my parents sympathized a lot with her. They can show their care, but why not show the same care for me?

Sorry for lengthy reply and any typos.

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