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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re an idiot for getting into a relationship with someone who as you said has a long history with substance abuse. [/quote]

OP here. He didn’t tell me about it. I only learned about it after we broke up, when he told me his behavior changes were caused by drugs. [/quote]

You said you were planning on marrying except you didn’t know about his drug past and didn’t know he was on drugs the 2nd year of you dating. Sure, okay. [/quote]

OP here. I literally never once saw him use drugs and he lived with me. He didn’t tell me until we broke up. He’s doing a drug rehab program now and is struggling. Completely different from the person who I met, who was Christian, family oriented, smart, career driven, etc. [/quote]

Does it help to look at him
Like this?; you love the facet of him he showed you. That tells you who you are looking for and the qualities you want in a partner. 
He concealed from you all the different facets he has. Purposefully concealed them from you. He needs to heal and so do you because that is a betrayal of sorts- that he didn’t show his full self to you.

He has enabled you to find someone with the qualities you really want. When you miss him, turn that feeling around and wish him peace and wish for yourself you find a stronger partner for you.[/quote]

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