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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I noticed a folded piece of paper in my dd’s room this morning and I went to open it and dd saw me and told me not to touch it. I honored the request. I expected the letter to be gone when I got home from work but[b] it was still there and so I’ve read it. [/b] What do I do now? It does not outline any plans to kill herself but it speaks to her depression and not feeling relief from depression despite taking medication. It speaks to feeling like life is pointless and not wanting to live. But also explicitly states that she can’t kill herself. I don’t know when she wrote it. It feels like she wanted me to read it- as she left it where it was earlier. A cry for help? More intervention? Clearly her dosage of meds is not effective at this level. What do I do now? She has a psychiatrist but not a therapist as she feels like therapy has not been helpful. Do I talk w her about the note? I obviously want to protect her and keep her safe and evaluate her state of mind and keep her trust and all the things a parent wants to do. But I literally don’t know what next steps are. Help. [/quote] I was just talking about this with my therapist today, because my mother read some things of mine when I was a teen and I'm still angry about it. The therapist told me it is a huge boundary violation and that when people read something of someone else's that they shouldn't have, the feelings they get in response to it are 100 percent their own. Period. She didn't want you to read it, she specifically told you not to. You have a lot to learn about boundaries. Your next steps are to take care of your severely depressed daughter, like you should be doing anyway, note or not. Talk to her (without referencing the note you had no business reading) and talk to her psychiatrist -- her meds are not working. [/quote] You should double up on those therapy sessions, you sound angry.[/quote]
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