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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, it sounds like you need to find the right supports to "get it together" more.  Whether that's carpools or better calendar management (or something else), this will be a problem at any club that you go to if your attendance is going to be so hit-or-miss as to impact your kids' training or the experiences of other swimmers on the team.  [/quote]
The lack of empathy in this response is breathtaking.  I apologize, OP, on this individual's behalf.  (And confused as to how your fluid attendance is impacting the experience of other swimmers.  This isn't summer swim, where meets are team-based. And if OP's swimmers are fast, it doesn't sound like the coach is spending time catching them up at the expense of other swimmers.  [b]Blaming their real struggles on poor "calendar management" is just ... wow[/b])

Anyway, have you tried discussing your situation (if you're comfortable) with the Head Coach to provide some proactive context on why you may be less available at times?  Even better, if the club owner/president isn't the same person as the Head Coach, I'd talk to that person.  At younger age groups, I'd think most clubs and coaches would show some grace if they understood the circumstances (vs. your kid just no showing whenever because they don't feel like going).  If your swimmers are invited to participate in more competitive practice groups as they get older, most clubs probably wouldn't be okay with spotty attendance, regardless of the circumstances.

Regardless, the Head Coach shouldn't be making cutting remarks to your kids. I do not think you'd find that experience at other clubs. If they have concerns, they should speak to you directly.  If you want to try to stick it out, I'd speak up and try to resolve the situation.  Good luck with this and settling into your new routine!  You've got this. [/quote]

Their "very real struggles" are Covid, divorce, school changes, and moving.  Nearly everyone has experienced Covid and school changes in the last 4 years, many have moved, and divorce is unfortunately not totally out of the ordinary either.  All of these are challenging to be sure, but none so out of the ordinary as to excuse outsized flakiness (or whatever the specific issues are) for this particular family.  I'm sure other families and maybe even the coaches, would be willing to help with transportation or flexibility if OP was proactive about the help they need vs. making excuses and hoping to get by on their kids' proficiency.  
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