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[quote=Anonymous]Ladies, as we age we simply run out of fcks to give.

I think everyone has to reframe their vision of themselves at some point or risk staying unhappy and insecure. It's easier said than done, I know. I'm sure it's harder for people who were used to being attractive and it became part of their identity.

I finally conceded to my mom bod 5 years after my last child when it was clear my pre-pregnancy body was not coming back without more work than I had time for. Even though I weighed 10 lbs more than before, it looked like 20 lbs. I am still as active and athletic as before but my body is just different. I would probably have to be 10 lbs less than before in order to look the same.

I embraced frumpy clothes as simply being more comfortable. I prefer elastic waistbands now because I bloat so much in the evenings. I gave up trying to look like I did in my 20s.

OP, if you really are feeling self-hatred because you don't look like you did in your 20s, I suggest doing some naval gazing to see if you can work through it. Books, friends, therapists, whatever you prefer. You're not becoming your mother because of your appearance. You're becoming your mother because of your expectations.[/quote]

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