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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a big believer in therapeutic non-truths, personally. There are a lot of ways to talk about someone who is deceased with one of you knowing that and one of you not. “Where’s Larla?” “She’s not here. What do you think about salmon for dinner?” “When is Larla coming.” “Larla REALLY loved salmon. I remember she ordered the salmon every time we went to Dino’s restaurant when we lived in Pensacola. Do you like seafood?” *gets agitated* “when is she coming to dinner?” “I am going to tell you the second I hear from her. We’re safe here together for now. It’s time to get dinner together, would that be okay for now?” [/quote] When she doesn't remember we don't remind her. We just say "He couldn't come today. He loves you. He'll see you soon (we're Christian so we don't consider this a lie)." [/quote]
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