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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently learned that a very close friend  told another mutual friend that she feels like she and I are growing apart because she has realized how different we are. While this is a little disappointing, I get it. People change, and friendships change over time. The thing that caught me off guard is the fact that my friend apparently attributed this growing apart to the fact that she does not think I am “making much of an effort socially or trying to meet new people.”

This friend and I live on opposite coasts, so her complaint does not seem to be that I am not making enough of an effort with her. We see each other often enough despite living so far apart, and I think I typically do a better job of checking in than she does. Instead, what she seems to be getting at is that she doesn’t think I spend enough time socializing in my day-to-day life or making new friends.

This friend and I are in the same life stage. We’re both in our mid-30s, we both have young children, and we both WOH full-time. I see friends every 2 weeks or so on weekends, and I also spend my weekends doing kid activities, having the occasional date night with DH, doing chores, running errands, exercising, spending time with local family, and catching up on work. Basically, I feel like my life is very full (verging on too full), and now I feel judged by one of my oldest friends for not having a full enough social calendar or not establishing enough new connections.

I’m not sure what sort of validation I’m seeking here. Maybe I just want to vent! I guess I’m curious to know - am I an outlier in the way I socialize and spend my weekends at this stage in life? I just don’t understand why one of my closest friends would say something like this about me![/quote].

More importantly, why is your middle friend such a gossip?
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