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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I organize and plan pretty much everything for my family and it doesn’t bother me.  My husband and I work FT - he’s WAH, I’m WOH - about equal hours, but he makes three times what I do.  We have three kids and share most of the housework (just hired cleaners to come every two weeks), but I do all of the cooking and he does all of the laundry.  He does a lot of the hands on parenting while I am the one enrolling in camps, organizing birthday parties, planning vacations etc.  (and also staying on top of our finances).  I’m pretty Type A and a natural planner so it really doesn’t bother me and I don’t feel bogged down by it.  I guess it’s hard for me to understand why some people feel like it’s so intolerable - it’s just part of being an adult! You would have a mental load even if it were just you![/quote]

It is not the mental load itself that is intolerable. It is living with another adult day in and day out who isn't being a partner, but rather a mooch, and who feels like an additional child. And then you lose attraction for this man-child because he seems so inept/weak/not supportive. Then he becomes resentful too. Some marriages feel this way. Yours does not because your partner pitches in. Congrats. [/quote]

Eh, I'm the control freak above. I'm in charge of all the investments, money, kids, vacations, house, etc. I have way more time at my desk job to manage everything. He works on his feet and does not have a lot of down time. He will do things when I ask/create a list/schedule. I guess I like it this way and I'm good at it.[/quote]

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