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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please watch this, it’s hilarious and directly addresses your question:

https://www.tiktok.com/@boldfam/video/7254999809197641003[/quote]

Ha, spot on. My parents are like this. Maybe not the t-shirts and license plate holders in the OP but getting their identity from being grandparents (e.g., talking constantly about their grandkids to others, insisting on the latest school photos as soon as they come out, etc.) but not actually seeing or interacting with their grandkids at all really. We live a couple hours away, and my parents have never visited, but even when we visit them they don't talk to my kids. My sibling is local. My parents have never been to a school event, school play, sports/soccer/baseball game, etc., for my teenage nephews despite living right there, being in fine health, no cognitive issues, etc. I've give up trying to understand it. [/quote]

Hah! This is my MIL. Constant guilt trips about us not facilitating a relationship between her and our kids, but never initiates or even answers FaceTimes, never comes to activities, moved farther away from us when downsizing. Insists on celebrating birthdays and then shows up with inedible cake and gifts that go immediately in the donate pile (because she never asks what the kids are interested in). When we do see her, she barely engages with the kids but insists on a pic for social media before leaving. [/quote]

You are describing my MIL, down to the bizarre photo at each gathering even though she spent the whole visit ignoring the kids and talking about herself or her other grandkids. My kids are much older now and don't enjoy those IL visits.[/quote]

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