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[quote=Anonymous]I am super close to my mom and always was- much closer to her than my dad who I felt was not super interested in me compared to my brothers.

Fast forward to my kids- I was the first to have children and my parents were so excited, both of them. I was really pleased how interested and proud they both were of my kids. Unfortunately as the kids have gotten older my dad has been showing more interest in my son and less and less interest in my daughter. When they come over he gravitates immediately to my son and my mom spends more time with my daughter but my son also wants her attention (she’s super warm- all kids love her). There have been a few other things but nothing super obvious. My son plays sports and my parents both come regularly to games. It’s all been fine. Well for the first time my daughter has a big event- a dance recital coming up. She’s danced for a couple years but for various reasons this is the first in person recital. Anyway apparently my dad doesn’t want to come. He’s not busy, he just doesn’t want to go. My mom is asking if I think my daughter will be upset and honestly I think she will notice that he’s not there but always comes to her brothers games. I haven’t responded yet because I’m kind of shocked by how angry I feel. I don’t want to make this about how I felt growing up so I’m trying to separate those feelings but I also don’t think it’s ok. Both my in-laws are looking into flying into town to time a visit around the recital and I’ve never felt more grateful for them but I’m not 100 confident they will make it (they end up canceling fairly often for health reasons especially since the pandemic).

I know I didn’t give a lot of details but I am ok to at a minimum tell my dad I think my daughter will be unhappy he chose not to come right? I am not going to ask her because I don’t even want her to know this conversation is happening.[/quote]

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