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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please watch this, it’s hilarious and directly addresses your question:

https://www.tiktok.com/@boldfam/video/7254999809197641003[/quote]

Ha, spot on. My parents are like this. Maybe not the t-shirts and license plate holders in the OP but getting their identity from being grandparents (e.g., talking constantly about their grandkids to others, insisting on the latest school photos as soon as they come out, etc.) but not actually seeing or interacting with their grandkids at all really. We live a couple hours away, and my parents have never visited, but even when we visit them they don't talk to my kids. My sibling is local. My parents have never been to a school event, school play, sports/soccer/baseball game, etc., for my teenage nephews despite living right there, being in fine health, no cognitive issues, etc. I've give up trying to understand it. [/quote]

I don’t get why it’s so widespread.

I’m not even THAT interested in kids really, but I hope to be an involved grandparent if for no other reason than this phase of my life (parenting small children) has been so incredibly hard that I want to help my own kids have an easier time with it someday.

Have they just forgotten how hard it is? Are their lives really so meaningful and fun that they don’t want the love of a grandkid?

It’s perplexing because I look at how fiercely my freaking nanny loves my DC (so much so that she sometimes wants to stop by on her days off just to snuggle him) and she misses him terribly when we vacation. They aren’t even related but you fall in love with kids when you spend time with them. So weird my own parents have no interest.[/quote]

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