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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel you. This describes my son and his current first girlfriend to a T except that my son is in college! So one positive to grab onto is that at least your son is gaining relationship experience earlier than mine has.

I keep waiting for the painful break up because it is so clear that my son is significantly more invested in the relationship than his girlfriend is. He, too, is deeply “in” the relationship, views her as his best friend, wants to spend lots of time with her, prioritizes her over all else, etc — versus she ranks him after her friends, activities, etc (which is so much healthier than my son’s attitude!), puts a lot of parameters on their time together so that she can balance her other priorities.

When I have tried to gently point out to my son that it is important he make time for things that are important to him besides her (I even note that she likes him because of his other interests!), he quickly becomes angry and defensive. So, this is a long winded way of saying I agree with the others to be a listener vs giving advice, and trust that he’ll learn natural consequences from the experience.

PS - Many posters have recently asked about teens/college students and lack of relationships, implying that boys tend not to want relationships and girls do. I have witnessed the opposite with my own son vs daughter and my friends’ sons- the boys seem to fall hard and fast and girls have a healthier attitude![/quote]

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