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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm like you, I think. I never bothered. You should use your sarcasm to make it clear to your DH that you won't put up with comments like that, that sorority girls are silly. Use your wit to change his mind and appreciate all the trade-offs of dealing with a sorority girl, $$$ being the first thing that comes to mind.[/quote]

+1. Although I’d try to do it without tearing down other women.

Maybe say “it would be nice to be married to someone who made $500k a year - because it would be easier, more pleasant, etc”.

Or insert whatever quality that you would appreciate in a spouse that your H doesn’t have, such as

“it would be nice to be married to someone who wasn’t a hypocritical jerk…” or

“it would be nice to be married to someone who would take the lead on the superficial social interactions that he wants, rather than being a schlub who expects his wife to do it, even if she’s not interested…” [/quote]

I would only say these if you want a fight.  You can get the same spirit across with different language.

I also grew up in an immigrant house but with a 180 degree upbringing. I was expected to be hard nose, high achieving, independent. and not very soft. Now I am 50 and think that extreme wasn’t great either.

The poster above had nice comments on fashion so I’ll focus on personality. Know when to bring out the sarcasm and when it kept locked down. It is a knife and you want to use a knife with care. As a child of immigrants, you should be familiar with code switching? It’s kind of like that. There are times where showing a softer personality will make things easier for you too. I mean, wouldn’t most people prefer a spouse who is kinder to
them?[/quote]

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