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[quote=Anonymous]Sigh. You're looking at this ALL wrong. Both of you. You've got to highlight the overlap of things you love about yourself and the things you perceive others will love about you. It's a Venn diagram sort of project. Do not force yourself to be something you're not!

You're smart, OP. Take a scientific approach to this. Observe your figure. Don't follow trends. Find clothes that flatter the body you have. Humans are hardwired, not to find the latest fashion attractive, but to find an hourglass figure attractive. Just because the new "it" pants are baggy, it doesn't mean you can't find something that highlights (or creates the illusion of) a slim waist. Or maybe you have long slender legs, and might want to wear shorter skirts, or shorts on weekends. Or maybe you have a lovely hair, and need to condition it better and wear it differently. Maybe your skin care routine isn't making your skin glow as much as it could, so you need to pare down, and test a few products, sleep better, eat cleaner, take a multivitamin.

You don't need to do your nails at a salon or get your hair cut regularly. You don't need to slather on a ton of make-up. You can have a low-maintenance lifestyle and do much of this at home and still look great. Sunscreen and retinol (if you can tolerate it) will go a long way towards making you look ageless for a many years.

I've never stepped foot in a mani-pedi place in my life, but my nails look well-kept all the time. I'm 43 and need to color my greys, which I do at home, no problem. I hate looking like everyone else and know exactly what I like in terms of clothes, so I go on Poshmark and find interesting things that flatter my figure. I happen to have a slim waist, and high-waisted clothes look good on me, so it's high-waisted pants, skirts, and dresses with a structured high waist. I avoid drop waists like the plague, my legs are short enough already. I know what colors suit my skin tone. I have sensitive skin that blushes quickly, which is both good and bad, because I can't use most skin care products, but then again, I'm rosy enough to begin with :-)

I, too, love snark and sarcasm, but I know when to tone it down and when to let it rip.

The goal is to feel confident and happy with what you're doing with your body and personality. Confidence is supremely attractive.

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