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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are living in a foreign country with no job responsibilities?

That sounds like a dream. I would spend my days exploring! Find cute towns to visit. New spots to relax and read a book with a cup of coffee. Visit museums.

Are you jealous of your DH being the sole provider? My DH and I both work, but we see each other’s successes as the family’s successes. Do you not feel proud of him?

I guess I’m just not understanding the issue … is it that you truly no longer love your spouse or that you just don’t know how to make the best of a situation? [/quote]

I can see why people enjoy unstructured days or lack of responsibilities, but it's very difficult for me. I have explored to a point, COL is high, and on one salary it's very tight. We're barely saving. I don't blame him for my situation -- we made this decision together -- nevertheless there's a lot of resentment, which has killed my feelings. [/quote]

Something like this happens in most marriages.  Anything worth doing requires real sacrifices (you move to a place you wouldn’t of, you have fewer kids than you wanted to, you can’t pursue the goals you had etc.).  You can sacrifice those for a job, a marriage, a political campaign  a cause you believe in etc.

My advice, to the extent you are able, consitrate on the goal you have and not what you’ve already sacrificed. [/quote]

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