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[quote=Anonymous]I got sucked into my mother's mental health issues my entire childhood and adulthood and it got really bad as she aged. She finally got medication and therapy-kept firing therapists and going off meds. I had to detach with my own therapy because I could not take another second of it and I had been trained to absorb her issues and try to rescue my whole life.

It enraged her. Boundaries are about you, not pleasing them. I won't allow her to emotionally vomit on me any more. Basically she gets to the point where she hits rock bottom, goes on meds, gets back into consistent therapy and does much better for a while. She even revisits friendships and develops a life... until she declares herself cured and repeats the cycle. The difference is she has mostly learned to keep me out of it and when she forgets,I do not cave. I enabled her to stay stuck for too long because I didn't know any better. This was bad for her mental health and mine. I think she did enjoy dumping on me and getting attention, but for her overall well being it enabled her to remain helpless, yet paradoxically very controlling of me.[/quote]

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