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[quote=Anonymous]Love my husband and my MIL.  He’s a great dad/ son. She was terrific MIL.
  But after 5 years of taking care of his 90year old mom with dementia, I’m just starting to feel resentment. We have three active kids and he is always dealing with her. He has two useless siblings who don’t help at all… so the entire situation has fallen to us. 
   We are only ones of siblings with young children and full time jobs (60 hour plus week and tons of work travel)- were at max capacity prior to this.
    I was onboard and have been so impressed with his devotion. But now, 5 years in, I am feeling resentment. Often in evening, I’m juggling all three kids and tonite for instance- he was at her nursing home signing paperwork and delayed so I missed picking my daughter up from a field trip- late for sons basketball and haven’t yet packed for a biz trip. 
   Yet I know in my heart and head, he is even more torn. It’s a huge and emotionally/ physically constant issue dealing with her. 
    I don’t say anything - but I am just worn out and feel my kids have suffered (really) with stressed out parents and their dad missing so much of their stuff.
   How should I feel? What’s wrong with me to feel that way![/quote]

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