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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been there. My close childhood friend is still with her, IMO, abusive spouse. When he left her for another woman I was there 100% to be supportive, help her with the next steps. When she took him back I said and meant I would always be supportive of her even when I disagreed because when she is sick of the sh&t I do mean I will be there for her. [/quote]

Thanks.  That's the tough part for me.  I don't have it in me to be supportive anymore.  I've spent so much $$ and energy trying to help. [/quote]
I understand you have to protect yourself and your own family, but, should you let her know you won't help her anymore, she may have no one to turn to should she want to get out. I 100% understand your position, having been there myself. I stayed in her life because I knew I would blame myself if she had nowhere to go and was killed. Amazingly, her husband stopped beating her and focuses more on emotional, psychological and financial abuse. It makes me sick, but he allows me to remain in her life because he thinks I "understand hiw relationships work."[/quote]

Agree with this.  Maybe write up a list of resources and send them to her.  Let her know that if something happens, she will need to make a call to the DV hotline and use resources that are out there instead of dumping on you.[/quote]

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