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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have two young kids. We’re in our mid and late thirties. Dh is happy to stop having kids, I mostly want one more (though am not jazzed about getting pregnant or nursing again, and still carrying weight from previous two pregnancies so I don’t feel my healthiest.)

Anyway dh says that he prefers not have more kids, but doesn’t want me to resent him. He “consents.” I essentially have to choose between what he wants and what I want/think is best for our family.

Dh is just past doing the night feedings and diaper changing etc. he likes to travel which would be harder short-term, and more expensive perpetually with three.

We have one child of each gender so not about that.

One of our children (son) does have some mild special needs (adhd). We have healthy ivf embryos remaining (all female). [b]I think having another child would be good for our family, and that having a sister would hopefully be nice for our daughter long-term. [/b]

We can afford another child in terms of college savings etc. we plan on private school and two is definitely more affordable in that sense.

On the one hand, it’s nixe to be past the infant stage, but on the other, I feel like a third child is in my heart and this would be the time to go for it.

Wwyd?[/quote]

The bolded is just you trying to justify want you want.  Plenty of girls/women don't get along with their sisters at all; many do.  No guarantees there.  Also, you're justifying it'd be good for your daughter to have a sister, but your son...doesn't need a brother?  Wants two sisters?  It's ok to admit this is what YOU want, nothing to do with anyone else.[/quote]

A son is off the table because all our remaining embryos are female and I have difficulty conceiving naturally. If I had embryos of both genders I wouldn’t pick dd having a sister over ds having a brother. I would pick healthiest embryo.[/quote]

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