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OP - It is highly unlikely that your siblings will suddenly put in much effort to help care for your Dad as  you have been willing carry the load for a decade.  At this point in time, I would definitely find a senior center for him to attend at least a couple of days a week.  Perhaps, you would do better at this point in time in just saying that you need a break and asking each of your three siblings to take your dad for a weekend/long weekend once a quarter.

If that is not possible, then have you considered looking for a part-time job job outside of your home so you can just have a life and routine of your own.  If not, then you say you work part-time so schedule being out of the home a definite period of time say twice a week AND bring in someone two days a week.  It might be a person who would do housework one day and be more of a sitter the other -- preparing lunch for you dad, whatever.   In other words, your respite would be to schedule time for yourself that you could count on AND at the same time introduce your dad to the idea that he will be needing others to help him beyond you.   You might enjoy a gym where your could take a class and just do other activities, being able to go to the library and just read in peace, perhap doing a volunteer job you might enjoy or taking a daytime class yourself, meeting friends for lunch or coffee.

You might try to work out a way with your husband and daughter, too, to give you a little respite on the weekends every couple of weeks.  Depending on your finances, can you find a sitter for dad to be able to get away for a weekend with DH or on a trip for three of you before your daughter leaves for college.  [/quote]

I’m dealing with a tough situation with my mom at the moment - different but challenging - so I really feel for you. If the siblings can’t/won’t come help can they provide financial help? If you could hire an aide a few days a week that might provide you a break. You may have to try a few to find the right fit but you can find someone who will talk to him and provide some company for him without requiring him to be in a group setting if he doesn’t like that. [/quote]

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