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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They can take their vacation and come to your parents. Give you a break. A break for a week. You go somewhere -away- for vacation. One idea.
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Thank you for your response.

I've suggested this before, and they say their family needs a vacation.

Also: one week a year isn't too terribly helpful. Neither is coming in for a visit over a weekend. I need them to come more frequently, work from my parents' home (like I do), and actually handle everything so I can be off the hook.

They tend to point to things like their holiday visits and short overnights when they are in town for other family functions (e.g., weddings, showers, baptisms, etc.) or work (conferences/meetings) as "helping," but it isn't helping when we are all together for Christmas or Easter or cousin Larla's wedding. Why? Because I don't get to check out and relax...I'm still the one doing all the grocery shopping before they come.

I guess I'm wondering why siblings think it's okay to dump all the responsibility on one person? Why don't they realize that simply picking up 6-12 weeks/year is the least they could do when their sibling is covering the rest of the year? [/quote]

Realistically no working person with kids is going to be able to take 6-12 weeks out of the year away from their life, for any reason. I think you need to focus on solving the unfairness of your situation rather than try to have them step up, because they will not.[/quote]

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