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[quote=Anonymous]I became the default caregiver since my siblings live out of state. It was fine when my parents were relatively independent, but now that one requires more care (fall risk and forgetful), I had to move into their home.

There is no money for round the clock care or even PT help (plus, they don't want "a stranger" in their home).

They refuse to leave their home.

I can't move them into my place (too small).

My siblings always offer to help in very empty ways ("Let me know if there's anything I can do to help.") The reality is they can't help because they aren't here. And they won't kick in money to pay for PT help (plus: our parents don't want strangers in their home).

Has anyone successfully navigated this and somehow come up with a solution?

I would love it if my siblings would take turns visiting for a week or two at time so I could have a break. They both work from home so they could easily do that from my parents' house (it has wifi). They both have school-aged kids, but they also have spouses.

I'm wondering why they feel it's okay for everything to fall on me...and why they think it's okay for them to use their own family and work responsibilities as an excuse? I mean, I have a family and work responsibilities, too.

PS - Please don't say that everyone should chip in for hired help. My siblings won't (they both say they can't afford it), plus my parents are adamant they won't have a stranger in their house (they know people whose hired help stole from them).[/quote]

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