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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]About 20 years ago a close relative had a destination wedding that was out of our budget. But they are such a close relative to my spouse that we felt we had to go. The only way we afford it was by putting it on multiple credit cards. We sacrificed a lot to go (we had just gotten married and didn't even take a honeymoon ourselves due to finances) and had financial difficulties for many years after, several thousand of which we attributed to this wedding. [b]I know we could have said no [u]but[/u][/b] we tried in our own way and we were different, younger people, so we felt we absolutely had to go when we were told to go and stay where we were told to stay. I am still bitter about it even though I love DH's family. I suppose I just have always wanted someone to say to us "Thank you for doing that, in retrospect we know it wasn't fair to ask of you and we know it was hard." At this point it feels unreasonable to feel this way so I am asking how to shake it for good for the benefit of my sanity. [/quote]

Really, everything from the "but" forward on is a rationalization and complete BS.  You made this decisions, you were adults, and you allowed others to sway or bully you.  THe way to shake it is accept that it is your responsibility.  [/quote]

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