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[quote=Anonymous]I have been caring for my parents for the last 10+ years. Dad has been living with me, other than a few visits to siblings, since 2020. Last year was all me. My DH and DD (18) are hanging in there. Not complaining. I am exhausted. He can bathe himself, remember his meds (I fill them), walk around the house with walker/cane. He had a bad fall last year, but no serious injuries. He can barely navigate the stairs anymore and while the shower works for him now, I imaging not for long.

I tried classes, adult day care. His social connection is me - all day long. Talks to me every time I walk by him in the house - "how are you", "how's work".  I take him to the library, watch tv with him at night. Cook all means (for everyone), handle alls his finances, medical etc.  I have 4 siblings. 1 lives close by; others 2 hours away.  The once close by takes him out to lunch once in awhile. The others visit 2 times a year and are just guests when they are here, but he loves to see them.

I work at home (part time), but will soon go full time for a short period of time.  I'm exhausted and don't feel well. I felt actually dizzy and unable to think of words the other day.

DD is looking at colleges and hasn't had a good high school experience. She is down and sad and making choices for next year.

DH works 12 - 14 hour days. Always has.

I'm not even feeling like I'm functioning anymore. I'm forgetting things. I cry constantly.

I know that much of this would be a bit better if my father was in assisted living, but he's scared, has never lived along and really doesn't want to. He doesn't have much money, but does have enough for 2-3 years. He's soon to be 89.

Advice? [/quote]

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