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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an adult with dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia, auditory discrimination, and ADHD. ES was a struggle, I remember tears and refusing to do homework with my Dad because he could not understand how I could not remember the process for, well, anything. School support was ok but not great. I worked a lot with my Mom. I flunked 8th grade science and was a solid C-D student in math and science in ES and MS. We discovered how I tested and learned when I was sick as a Freshman in HS and had to make up work and tests, my grades on the tests jumped from Ds to Bs. After determining that I hadn't cheated, I was allowed to take tests in the resource room, untimed, and to talk to myself. My grades greatly improved. I never took honors math or science but was in honors/AP English, History, and Government classes. I went on to earn my PhD in a Social Studies field.

My sibling had more severe LDs then I did. He worked with tutors for years. My parents moved him out of the Public Schools in7th grade after he had been placed in a class with kids who were low IQ. He did fine in MS, HS, and College, more a C-B student but super social and out going. He is by far the most successful of all of my siblings as an adult. He is crushing his job. Not surprisingly, he landed in a sales position which works great for his personality. He has a strong support staff at work that helps with a lot of the executive functioning stuff he struggles with.

Your post tells me that you know this but I will say this from my perspective. It was very clear to me that my Dad thought I was an idiot. My older siblings had no learning issues and picked up on everything really quickly and easily. Doing homework with him was awful and I started to refuse to work with him early in ES. Mom had my same learning issues so was not the best tutor for me but she understood why I was struggling, had the same issues I did, and I learned that we could get the right answer and understand the subject if I worked hard enough. It was tedious and painful and I still hate word problems with the passion of a thousand suns but I knew I could figure it out.

Please understand that your child wants to learn, and I think that you know this, and is trying their hardest. This is frustrating and hard for them. those deep breaths and working to not show your frustration are really, really essential. There is a good chance that your child is understanding more then you know, and your kid knows, and they just can't show it. Try and find something that your child excels at and loves and make sure to be there as their biggest cheerleader. Dad was on the sidelines of every sport I played and my biggest cheerleader.

Just hang in there. There are lots of kids who struggle who do well as an adult. Your kid can get there. One of my Mom's biggest smiles was when I showed her the invitations I was sending to the not so supportive Teachers from ES when I completed my PhD. I doubt that they got them, I doubt that they rememered me. But it brought me great joy to tell them they were wrong. [/quote]

you really buried the lede there!! what is your PhD in? [/quote]

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