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[quote=Anonymous]We spend a lot of time with MIL/FIL, who live only an hour away. We try to do things that are important to them, like go to them for lots of holidays, since they really like their church friends to see the kids. All communication happens through DH, though of course DH and I discuss the requests and the plans, and make decisions together. I’d say we say yes to 80% of requests for our time.

The issue is, the way MIL asks for answers NOW and hounds until she gets an answer. She won’t just issue an invitation: she’ll issue an invitation and will be like “let me know today,” no matter that she’s asking about a date that’s, say, six weeks away. She’ll keep texting even though she knows DH is at work and he still needs to talk with me about it, etc., etc.

DH is frankly sick of this and told me over the weekend that his new response to her is “If you need to know now, the answer is no, we won’t be able to visit that day. If you can wait a few days for Jill and I to discuss it, I may be able to say yes, but if you need to know now and won’t leave me alone until you get an answer, the answer is no.”

I think this is kind of harsh, but at the same time, I more than see where he’s coming from. Should I just let this play out for a while, or should I suggest a phone call or something to at least discuss the dynamic and let her know why it has become problematic? [/quote]

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