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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is a super introvert and never really participated in activities at the independent living facility, or maybe very few. She'd go down for meals occasionally but I think she was pretty happy during covid when they brought the meals to their apartments instead.

The down side to independent living is no assistance for falls--no one checked on anyone even in the morning to make sure they woke up. My mom spent like 17 hours on the floor after a fall and was only found by accident when my brother stopped by to drop something off.

In the 90s my grandma lived at a different independent living place where they were checked on every morning, so I expected that basic level of service.

Fast forward multiple more falls and I started looking for an assisted living situation, got her moved and she continues to fall. In this AL, they are required to go to the dining room for meals unless they're sick or have doctors orders otherwise. Given my moms repeated falls and significant loss of vision, that seems kind of ridiculous.

She's had many more falls and about 3-4 weeks ago she had three falls in about 3 days and she's been in and out of the hospital and rehab facility ever since. Her most recent fall was at a doctors office and fractured her clavicle and a vertebra which required surgery. The incision isn't healing well and now she's back in the hospital for a blood clot.

I guess I went on a tangent, but all of this is to say it really depends on what your mom needs and wants, her overall health, whether you need/want someone to check in on her etc. If the IL place also has an AL place or rehab place, then that might be worth considering as a bonus so there's less moving around if she falls and injures herself. I would ask what services are included (like checking on them in the morning or tracking them down if they don't show up for a meal--making sure they're not on the floor etc.) These aren't things you think about until you've had to deal with them on the floor for 17 hours. [/quote]

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