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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people like to sweep things under the rug and pretend everything is fine.  They don't want a real relationship.  They want a surface level relationship because they are shallow people.

Up to you whether you continue to ignore/toss the messages or whether you can accept a surface level relationship.

They will never be the parents you hoped for.  You can't make them into something they are not.[/quote]

This. As another adult child of parents like yours, 100% this.

Be prepared for them to have badmouthed you to their friends and people that they see more often than you do and just learn to let it go.

You can be angry at them for their behavior and say it once or twice but keep it over the phone as much as possible. Hang up if they try to draw you into their melodrama.

If you don’t have siblings, prepare for it to be all dumped entirely on you. Role reversal is awful in these situations but keeping it to the phone and to time limits (seriously set a timer if you need to) will help you stay calm and as unaffected emotionally as possible.[/quote]

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