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[quote=Anonymous]I've been estranged from my parents since November 2023. Since 2020 it's been extremely strained and nonstop promises of "oh we'll be better" that they don't keep. Nasty remarks, needing to get their way on everything, always being right, gossiping behind our backs, not respecting us or taking us seriously, me always being the one to reach out or visit, etc.

Finally there was the metaphorical straw that broke the camel's back. They blatantly lied to me about something. When I pointed out that this bothered me, they went ballistic and left 3 voicemails just basically insulting me and my husband for 10-15min straight. I was 7 months pregnant at this time. I just told them that there's things in the voicemails they can't unsay and I am done with the two of them.

We recently had a kid (which I'm sure has something to do with their behavior). They have started reaching out, more in the past 3 months than all of 2022 and 2023 combined. It's in very bizarre and surface-level ways. Texts, emails, voicemails, packages, they even managed to find our baby registry and send us a message there. All of the communication is very "hallmark card" and surface-level, nothing acknowledging their behavior or the past 3-4 years other than once they said "I hope we can find a way to put the past behind us".

It got to be overwhelming as they were contacting us in some shape or form almost every week. I sent a text that said I would like them to address the lying and insulting voicemails. They ignored this text (they aren't very self-reflective or good at admitting when they're wrong) but sent my 1 month old son a valentine's day card with a note (you are so cute, we love you so much, etc) and socks. My husband think they are just doing all this to annoy me or "pull on my pigtails".

I am torn between ignoring it (which is a lot easier said than done when they're contacting us in some form every 1-2 weeks) or if it continues much past 3-6 months to start documenting each instance of unwanted contact and eventually escalate to a lawyer or the cops (like if you had an ex that wouldn't leave you alone).[/quote]

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