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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok wow. OP here. First off, I’m not really sure why the take is that I want to go crazy and sleep with a bunch of people? I mourn it yes-but at this stage in my life it’s mourning-not yearning. I simply don’t have the personality for that (but no judgment). And yeah-there is definitely no boyfriend? So no idea what that comment is about.

My husband thinks therapy is worthless so no-he is not open to it as I’ve tried to talk to him about it several times. Although he always says he is happy that it is helping me-he is not interested in being part of it. And obviously he is not happy it’s helping me since he keeps trying to cut me back down. And yes I’m still in therapy. My therapist really tries to stay neutral on the marriage front but does agree his comments are purposeful and intended to undo some work.[/quote]

Really try hard to get DH into couples counseling with you.  I’ve done individual therapy and couples counseling and individual therapy has real limitations, particularly when you are giving your therapist your view of your spouse.  It lets you stay in “victim” mode and your spouse isn’t there to advocate for themselves and their point of view.  You have a real role in your marriage and its potential dissolution and like your earlier life choices, you need to own it.[/quote]

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