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[quote=Anonymous]DD 14 is very 14. Lovely to other people, charming and a great student at school, then comes home and unloads all the big feelings onto me. Critical of my every glance (I know its normal, I remember doing it myself to my mother) but then also complaining about how much she hates school, her sport practice that day, etc. etc. I listen - I do my job. I acknowledge how hard that must be and validate her feelings. If I ever suggest any solutions, it is, of course, met with even more hostility.

I get it, this is typical. But I'm honestly sick of it. I feel like she unloads all her anger and frustration onto me - and then I am supposed to carry it for her. I don't want to do this anymore. I hate the fact I dread picking her up from school because she's going to be such a pill in the car. I hate the fact that everyone else gets the nice happy DD and I only get the snarly version.

When did we as a society decide parents (aka mothers) were just expected to absorb all the shed emotions from our teens without question? Why do I have to sit there silently while she rails on about how unjust one thing or another is? I feel like I am being handed burden after burden of hers to carry because that's what mothers are supposed to do. But it makes me sad and anxious myself alongside also being essentially bullied for existing at all to begin with.

Why do I need to be a martyr exactly?[/quote]

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