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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t really picture what you are talking about here.  
It sounds to me like you are regularly (perpetually?) being hurtful to your spouse in a way that you feel is minor, and potentially majorly hurtful 10 years ago, and you don’t like that they are upset about it.  [/quote]

The couple I know who seem to be like this had a situation where one spouse cheated many years ago, but kept quiet about it until a number of years after it happened. The spouse who was cheated on has had a tough time dealing with the idea that a person could be a great spouse for years and years while keeping the details of cheating secret.

So, one spouse is hurt and upset about something that happened a very long time ago but doesn’t seem to know how to process it in a way that just sets it aside for good. It keeps coming back to their thoughts and then they “over react” to actions of their spouse. 
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Pp here.  I am wondering if it’s something like this. 
I can empathize with the cheating spouse being like, “It’s over.  Get past it.”  And I can empathize with the cheated on spouse wanting to talk about it more and feeling really hurt and angry and wanting to feel like he made it up to her somehow.  [/quote]

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