Reply to Dealing w/aftermath of unfaithful husband and family

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Dealing w/aftermath of unfaithful husband and family"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry, OP.  I did not tell anyone (except a counselor) that I was leaving until I actually started taking steps to separate, for precisely this reason.  Even then, I did not talk about any specifics of husband's infidelity.  While you can't undo having said something, maybe try a heart to heart with family to explain that many people do stay, you told them because you needed the support at the time, and you now need their support and space now as you continue to process what is the best path forward for your family. I also set the tone with my family that I still loved and respected him as a human being with whom I had built a life, even if we were separating, and I feel that made a difference. You should only leave after you have had a chance to really process what that means, not to save face with family or avoid awkwardness.

I found the book "Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On--Together or Apart" very helpful. In my case, he wasn't willing to work through the exercises in it with me, but I went through them on my own.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics