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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should let him know that you found out.

You should then ask him to ask his sister if you can go.

Respect the answer you get back.

If you aren't invited, there's a reason, and crashing is wrong.  Who knows what it is.  But it's the wedding couple's day, and a respectful person would not seek to detract from it.

This might mean your SIL has permanently written off your relationship.  But so what.  If you are already estranged it doesn't really matter if you are not there.[/quote]

OP here. Is it not wrong to invite someone without spouse? What god united, men can’t separate. We are a family unit and in-laws are all devout Catholics. [/quote]

NP here.  Yes, it is rude and wrong to invite one half of a married couple, but not the other.  That said, you weren't invited.  Crashing the wedding when you weren't invited is worse that your SIL's faux pas.

You tell your husband that you are hurt that you were not invited.  Were I in your husband's shoes, I would tell my sister that we are both hurt that she chose to invite me but not my wife.  And I would decline to attend, but still send a gift.  I can't make my sister invite my wife, but I can politely decline the rude invitation because I made the choice when I married my wife.  But ultimately, it's up to your husband to decide whose feelings it's more important that he honor, his sister or his wife.  It's a terrible position to be in.  You can make it easier, by encouraging him to go without you, but he still has to face the fact that he is making a choice of her over you and he will be hurting one of you; he just has to decide who he has to disappoint.[/quote]

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