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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have done well for ourselves. We live states away from family, have raised our kids on our own and they're thriving. We make good money and have taken some vacations and have some nice things in our house - and my parents are so judgy for it. My mom, in particular, gives the silent treatment whenever we mention taking a vacation, or for instance when we bought a car a few years ago (nothing ostentatious, but a nicer model than they would opt for). It's so messed up. My parents aren't poor by any means, they've done well, but they are so uncomfortable with the level we're at. [b]My sister, on the other hand, hasn't done as well career wise or family wise, yet she benefits from childcare and money from our parents (by way of a week at the beach, an old car, etc).[/b] I think my parents love being needed in that way and they hate that we're not dependent. It's so screwed up. You can't win.[/quote]

Compare to "Yeah, no.  I'm not superior and would never act that way"

Sis, you are acting superior to your sister, and also jealous of her getting anything from your mom that you didn't get in equal measure.  Of course the kid that doesn't live "states away from family" benefits from childcare and you don't, get over it.  You want your mom to thank you for not needing her, or congratulate you on being the successful one, and it's weird.  Pat yourself on the back.  Say some affirmations in the mirror in the morning.  Let it go.[/quote]

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