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[quote=Anonymous]My mother has lived with us for two years. She is pretty good but cannot live alone (can’t take her meds properly, can’t drive, can’t handle finances anymore, has falling a few times but not gotten hurt). Her memory is impaired in terms of things like asking the same question a bunch of times but average person probably wouldn’t notice an issue.

Here is the issue: I see how things are incrementally getting worse. Her balance, memory, etc. are much worse than they were a year ago. Maybe even 6 months. But because her mind is still there except for a bit of memory loss, I just don’t have the heart to put her in assisted living now. But the toll it is taking on me is great. I have a little help each day but I am increasingly becoming resentful. We are afraid to leave her to go out to dinner and she gets very upset if we have what she calls a “sitter” and then she pouts for days after. She is generally fine and agreeable but she definitely does not like being told she is incapable of staying alone.

Honestly I just don’t want to do this anymore and want my life back, but there is not enough of a reason to send her away and have her costs shoot up. Other than I am being selfish.

I am just venting. I don’t really have any questions. [/quote]

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