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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can stop offering advice without being rude about it or making a declaration. If they press you, just say "I really don't know -- I trust you to make good decisions for yourself."

IME, when are in situations like yours, there is often a symbiotic dynamic going on where the person who keeps messing up has come to rely on the other person for support and guidance, and the person providing that support and guidance almost *needs* the other person to be a screw up because it justifies their increasing condescension and superiority. You might bristle at this, but you should ask yourself why you maintain a relationship with someone you think so poorly of.

So I'd disrupt that dynamic. Stop giving advice. Tell them "I'm sure you'll figure it out." Change the subject to a movie you saw recently or the weather or politics or anything that isn't you giving them life advice and them saying "I know I know, you're right" and then not taking it.[/quote]

Maybe they're married to them. [/quote]

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