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[quote=Anonymous]How old is he? Divorced? Are you divorced? Just the one kid? How old? What is the relationship with your child’s father? If he has been married, what is the relationship with the ex wife?

I am not asking to judge. In fact, you don’t have to tell us the answers, but you should answer them for yourself. I am asking because some people have such horrific marriages and/or divorces that they are extremely hesitant to get married—or anything that looks like marriage—again. And of that set of people, some of them are unable to admit it out loud. They aren’t bad people, and they can be committed, in a day-by-day sort of way, but they are fun shy about putting it on paper, or even saying it out loud.

Could that potentially be the case here?

Also, can you clarify (to yourself, and to him—we don’t need to know): what are you really looking for from him? You say commitment, but not necessarily marriage. Do you want him to call you a certain name? Do you want a piece of jewelery? Do you want him to tell you he is committed to you? Be put on his credit card/bank account? Can you articulate to him what exactly you’re looking for? “Long term commitment, but not necessarily marriage” might be too ambiguous for him.[/quote]

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