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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear you but you really need to find a way to chill.

Look at the studies that demonstrate choice of school does not have a major impact on lifetime earnings.

Or consider all the positive reviews for schools beyond the top ones. Somehow students are happy and learning at the schools this forum sometimes frowns upon.

Set up the parameters of your search, create a timeline and do your research. Then spend time with your twins before they leave home.

I am a parent of twins, I have been in your shoes!
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For me it's everything: if I could easily pay 70k per kid at a "not prestigious" school, I'd not worry. I cannot do that so it already limits their choices. Then their course selections, scores, grades all limit further, and I have some input in all this.[/quote]

You’d probably just stress about some other element of the process.

We started out thinking my kid was aiming for top tier colleges. We’ve had to adjust sights/search downward every season as kid crashed and burned at a few key points. It kind of sucks. At the same time…you realize how blind you can be to how many wonderful schools there are out there, and how people thrive at them. Each time we’ve rewritten the college list (now includes a couple schools that admit 90% of applicants, and no longer includes any with admissions rate lower than 70%) we’ve been stressed, sad, and disappointed. And then…we all adjust to the new normal, and find good things about schools on the list. My kid’s top options are ones I looked down on and thought “well, at least he won’t go THERE” two years ago. And you know what? We’ll all be okay.

You don’t need to be this stressed, OP. Your kids will go to a fine college.[/quote]

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