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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this isn't what you'll want to hear, but I would love it if my daughter and husband had something even close to this relationship.

But that said, it sounds like with your husband's work schedule and you being probably the primary parent as a SAHM, your husband is more of the fun parent, while you take on most of the not fun work of parenting. 
 Are you the one reminding about homework, are you the one who is having her do chores, are you more firm about things?  She's probably gravitating towards him because of that.  [/quote]

OP here.  Actually my husband is the strict one!  That's the odd thing.  We always sort of argued about this because I'm more relaxed with her and he's more strict (sleep routine, homework routine, dinner time, making the bed, etc).  In terms of being fun we both do things with her and she jokes with me more than she jokes with him.  He's a bit more serious.  But he is 100% way more strict than I am and she knows it.  Years ago I thought him being strict would push her away.  In fact his mother thought the same.  We talked about it several times.  But, she shows him so much affection it's surprising.  Is this how daughters look up to dads around this age?

For the other questions, no I don't go to all the practices but I do attend most of the games.  He's a great dad in that way.  He goes to every single practice and sits in the bench and watches her.  It's insane like three days a week then two games during the weekends.  [/quote]
She probably finally has his notice, and she's trying harder to connect with him.

She doesn't need to do that with you because she already knows you are guys are close.

I once read that kids who act out at home but not in school do so because they know what the parents will love them  unconditionally, so they feel ok to act out. IMO, your situation is a bit similar in that she already knows you have a close relationship so she doesn't need to do anything else, whereas, her relationship with her father is only recently close so she needs to continue to cultivate it.

That's my internet therapy, free of charge.[/quote]

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